What is divorce to you? Many people in California look at it as the end of a relationship. However, relationships tend to persist — whether we want them to or not. This is even more so when ongoing maintenance agreements are involved, such as alimony, child custody and child support.
Our first goal at the Law Offices of Diane J.N. Morin is often to help our clients understand that divorce is a new phase of a relationship. Even after you sign all of the documents, you would likely still have to interact regularly with your ex. Luckily, there are ways that you might make the ongoing process as painless as possible.
Why would you want to keep your divorce out of court? Most of our clients initially relish the idea of having a judge decide in their favor, seeing it as a vindication of their side of the argument. We usually present a few arguments against pursuing trials:
- You often lose a great deal of control over your terms.
- Trials could make the details of your divorce a matter of public record.
- Alternative dispute resolution often yields the same results more efficiently.
Your dispute would still get the careful consideration and thorough investigation it deserves — that is not in question. A mediated or non-adversarial divorce is just as official and detailed as one decided at trial. The main difference is the way you arrive at the final agreement. However, some situations do call for court intervention, so please do not think of this as legal advice. It is simply general educational information.